She used to greet you when you came home from work with a hug and would excitedly tell you about her day. Now she scowls at you and calls you weird because you asked how her day has been; what school was like today, what happened in her social life and what made her laugh.
She used to tell you she loved you – and you clearly saw she meant it – but now you can do nothing right for her; she either bursts into tears for no apparent reason, or, tells you she “hates you.”
Welcome to being a still proud Dad to a teenage girl.
She still delights you. Yet now she also frustrates you. You feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster; every four seconds she has a completely different personality.
Dr Ruth A Peters suggests that clever, “gutsy” parenting is the key to getting through with your sanity intact. More importantly, your daughter needs you to stay strong for her, and journey with her as she faces social struggles, feelings of rejection, and self-perception problems.
And as a Dad to a teenage daughter you are likely to hear the dreaded “I’m fat!” Carol Tuttle, author of The Child Whisper, shows parents how they can hang in their, instilling confidence in their daughters as they grow into women.
And, in an everyday blokes world, you as your daughter’s Dad, can make a real difference. Just being their for her is all she’ll ever need when everything is boiled down.
So stay the course, no matter how rough it gets. You already know she’s worth it!
Imagine you’ve come home, eager to see the latest crazy stuff that is on YouTube – just to kick back and de-stress from what has been a hyper-uncool day. You fire up your favourite, latest tech, laptop with Windows 7 and some really cool stuff on board. Three minutes into it you get the blue screen of death. You run a registry clean, defrag, check for spyware….yada..yada..yada.
Bam!! It happens again.
“Mmmm!” Your thinking. “That’s not cool!!”
Reload. Another go.
“Okay, that’s annoying!!”
So, you decide to give the favourite laptop and YouTube a miss today. You don’t want a stroke and the Blue Screen of Death is pushing your blood pressure into hospitalisation territory. Instead, do something else.
You spy an Xbox 360, that was part of the spoils of winning a sales competition at work.
“Mmm! I’ll give that a go instead,” you think.
You unpack it, set it up and then load the Call of Duty disc into the drive.
“Please re-insert Memory Card.” This time, it’s a White Screen of Death.
You don’t bother with it because you know that no card came with it to install, and you’re not missing anything from the pack. Instead, you look for something else to take away the stresses of the day, as you try to get your BP out of the stroke danger zone.
Just then, you notice the cool and wonderful gift your wife gave you for Christmas. A beautiful Kobo e-Reader on which you now have a tidy sum of eBooks to read.
You fire it up.
“Mmm. All going well,” you say to yourself as it turns on okay and loads the book you are reading.
You read a few pages, then, BAM!!! It freezes.
“Boy, am I a shit magnet today or what?!!” You think, as your apparent luck with technology evaporates and an unwanted stay in the stroke ward of the local hospital seems imminent.
You decide to go for a walk instead, putting ‘page fault in non-page area’ and other such nonsense out of your mind. As you walk the streets of your local neighbourhood you think, “Gee, technology can annoy you!”
Why is it that our society has become exponentially more reliant on technology as it lets us down and is becoming less reliable? Why has no edition of Microsoft Windows after Windows 95, seemingly, been as stable? How can any company release a software update only to have it corrupt and render useless millions of gadgets around the world? And, how can there be fun in gaming machines that can’t even start?
Instead of trying to get everything to market for the cheapest price, at the lowest cost, produced by people who aren’t getting paid anywhere near average weekly earnings in whatever exploited country they live in, why not have a quality revolution. Nothing escapes the factory unless it is built to the highest standard and has been certifiably road-tested. No patch or software upgrade is made live or retailed to the public without having all bugs removed so the software does what it is intended to do. Lets live to a higher standard, not a lower standard!
Okay, I’ll get of the soapbox now. I guess it’s just the frustrations of being a bloke!!